Confidentiality for Pastors - A New Pathway to Spiritual Equilibrium
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.  And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.  And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.  And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed (Genesis 2:18-25).
A woman is a curious entity.  All a real woman wants from a real man is his love, his heart, his attention, his caring, and his protection. 
If a woman has a man's love she feels she has found a safe place to rest within him.  She cannot, however, have his love if he does not know who he is in God.  For without God a man cannot be fully man, but if he is seeking God, he is in the process of becoming a man.  God reveals to man his purpose, which gives him direction. 
Curious Motion
Once a man realizes who he is and has laid the foundation for his life within the parameters of God's purpose for his life, he is then ready to take on the responsibility of the entity called woman.  She is a complex, diverse, multi-faceted being in curious motion. 
Every true woman has her own set of peculiarities, but the primary core of her essence will always be a desire to be a man's first thought in the morning and his last thought at night, having conquered his heart she holds it as a precious gift.
The Potter's Hand
A true woman has allowed herself to be clay in the Potter's hand, and because of her submissiveness to the will of God in her life He has made her into a wife.  A wife from the hand of God should be every man's goal, if he has any sense at all. 
If you ask a man does he love his wife he will tell you emphatically that he does, but the evidence of his love is scarce, in terms of the amount of attention he pays to his wife in terms of romance; loving, passionate, tenderness, amorous, adoration, affectionate, devotion, ardent, enthusiasm, dedication, commitment, eagerness, and understanding. 
Men, in general, understand all this but they don't bother to demonstrate it because, as time goes by, they tend to take their wives for granted, which is one of the biggest mistakes men make when it comes to women.
If a man cares for a woman he is up to date on all that is going on with her, and the only way he can discover her secrets is through intimate conversations and unveiled communication.   She desires to share her true self but hesitates because experience has taught her to equate pain and suffering with men in general.
Guarded Heart
Often a woman will not share herself fully with a man because she does not feel safe with him.  She will tend to tell him what he wants to hear, and present an acceptable uncomplicated facade that will facilitate the relationship, and most men will not be able to differentiate the two women sitting before him; the real hidden woman, from the facade.  The reason for that will be because he has not taken the time, nor put forth the energy to truly get to know who she really is behind her guarded heart.
Protection is extremely important to a woman because she needs to feel as though her man stands between her and the world, preventing, whenever possible, turmoil from entering her sphere of peace and tranquility. 
Safe Deposit Box
Many women have been forced by circumstances to face the world by themselves, and in the process they have had to develop a hard outer core to survive with their sanity in tact. 
She has had to put all that is soft and tender about a woman into a safe deposit box, because those assets have a tendency to destroy a woman, leaving her open to vulnerabilities that she cannot afford because she has to earn a living, and she has to raise her children.
Consequently, she has to put the true face of her femininity behind her, and allow that aspect of her personality that gives her the ability to survive to take a dominant role.
So the appearance of her femininity can be deceptive, because underneath all that beauty and desirability she has had to develop a hard core, so don't be fooled by her lovely smile and soft laughter.  She is a warrior.  She was not meant to become a warrior, but she had to become one to survive.  So therein lies her complexity, her duality, and her fierceness. 
Therein also lies the challenge that many men face when confronted with today's redefined woman.  How does he cross all her barriers and reach the hidden woman within without  tearing her apart in the process.  She cannot be other that who she is, but she can shift her focus from the survival mentality that the world forced upon her towards her tender, soft side through coaxing by love's warm embrace.  "Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned"
(Song of Solomon 8:7).
As time has passed woman has transitioned into an independent force to be reckoned with.  She no longer needs a man to take care of her because she earns her own living.  She is educated.  She is strong and capable.  But she still needs love and affection that she will simply do without,  if, and until she finds a true foundation to build upon, based, first of all, on the love of God, and secondly, on the discovery of true love within the parameters of God's will for her life. 
The pathway she must travel is full of pitfalls, but she negotiates her own specific pathway with finesse, seeking a place in the world where her fondest wishes may come true.
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