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Rejected Bride

And Leah was tender eyed: but Rachel was beautiful and well favoured (Genesis 29:17). 

And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren. And Leah conceived, and bare a son, and she called his name Reuben: for she said, Surely the Lord hath looked upon my affliction; now therefore my husband will love me. And she conceived again, and bare a son; and said, Because the Lord hath heard that I was hated, he hath therefore given me this son also: and she called his name Simeon. And she conceived again, and bare a son; and said, Now this time will my husband be joined unto me, because I have born him three sons: therefore was his name called Levi. And she conceived again, and bare a son: and she said, Now will I praise the Lord; therefore she called his name Judah: and left bearing (Genesis 29:31-35). 

When Leah saw that she had left bearing, she took Zilpah her maid, and gave her Jacob to wife. And Zilpah Leah's maid bare Jacob a son. And Leah's said, A troop cometh: and she called his name Gad. And Zilpah Leah's maid bare Jacob a second son. And Leah said, Happy am I, for the daughters will call me blessed: and she called his name Asher (Genesis 30:9-13).

And God hearkened unto Leah, and she conceived, and bare Jacob a fifth son...and she called his name Issachar. And Leah conceived again, and bare Jacob the sixth son. And Leah said, God hath endued me with a good dowry; now will my husband dwell with me, because I have born him six sons: and she called his name Zebulun. And afterwards she bare a daughter, and called her name Dinah (Genesis 30:17-21).

Leah wanted her husband to love her, a husband her father gave her to, in lieu of her sister, Rachel. Rachel was beautiful, but Leah apparently was not so.  

Nevertheless, Leah wanted the love of her husband. She thought that because she gave him sons, a man's delight, that her husband would love her, but evidently not so because she kept saying after giving birth to sons, now, my husband will love me. Now, I will be worthy of his love, now there will be room in his heart for me and he will love me. 

But Jacob was in love with Rachel, the beautiful wife, and Jacob was in the midst of reaping what he had sown. He probably was asking himself why did this have to happen to him. Why did my father-in-law give me the wrong bride, after all I worked hard for him to gain the beautiful Rachel as my wife, and he tricked me and gave me Leah in stead. He got me so drunk that I didn't realize that I had the wrong wife until the morning light. What  a lame excuse he gave me, that you can't marry the youngest daughter before the eldest daughter is wed, consequently I have to work seven more years for the wife that I love.

Why, Jacob must have asked, is this happening to me. I can picture Jacob sitting in the dirt with his hands clasped about his head trying to figure out the why of it all. And in the middle of his frustration God brought back to mind how he had tricked his father into believing that he was Esau so that he could obtain the blessing of the firstborn son. His father felt Jacobs arms and he felt hairy like his son Esau. His father smelled Jacob and he smelled like the Esau because Jacob wore his brother's clothes in order to fool his father into thinking that he was his brother.

So there Jacob was on his wedding night, Leah's hair felt like Rachel's hair. They were sisters so their size was probably about the same, their coloring the same, so veiled, it never entered Jacobs mind that he was marrying the wrong woman, and not the woman whom he loved.
Rachel was a thief and a liar, she stole her father's gods and lied about it, but she was beautiful.

Often times a man falls in love with beauty and forsakes the inner qualities of a woman because he is so enamored with the outward appearance, which amounts to a hill of beans in terms of a long term relationship. All Rachel had to do was be beautiful to win Jacob's love, but Leah was reduced to trying to prove that she as well was worthy of love by giving Jacob sons. 

God blessed Leah because he saw how Jacob treated her, not like a man should treat his wife. God tells a man to love is wife or in this case wives. Apparently, Jacob was able to make love to her, but held his heart from her reserving all his love and affection for Rachel, and evidently this displeased the Lord.

The Word of God said that Leah was hated, not favored, not liked, not chosen, accepted as a way to get to the one Jacob really wanted. Life often teaches us that the thing that we really want is not, nor will ever be good for us. God tries, often unsuccessfully to circumvent our choices, but we ignore him because we want what we want to our own detriment many times.  

By the time we figure out we have made a foolish choice it's way, way too late. We have married Rachel, and we are stuck with Leah. Which is better, outward beauty with worms inside, or inner beauty with a so-so appearance? Remember, you have to live with your choice until death separates you, or in modernity, divorce becomes the only viable option when the worms start to creep out as the years go noisily by.

Leah could not change her appearance.  All she could do was keep trying to please Jacob, hoping that he would finally see her, love her and accept the love she had in her heart for him. 

The dowry of Leah's love was rejected over and over again. Son after son failed to cause Jacob to see Leah for who she was inside.
Leah, no doubt, obeying her father by marrying Jacob and pretending to be Rachel, must have had some feelings for Jacob, and Rachel, who watched the whole deception going forth said not a word. What woman would watch the man she was in love with quietly marry her sister without forewarning him, particularly when she knew how much Jacob loved her, enough to work seven years for her father to make her his bride? 

Evidently, Rachel did not love Jacob. How could she? Jacob loved Rachel instead of Leah, but God blessed Leah who gave birth to Judah, and the lineage of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Isaac loved Esau and his wife, Rebekah, loved Jacob and convinced him to fool his father into thinking he was the firstborn son, Esau, consequently sowing the seeds of deception into Jacob's life causing him to obtain a wife that he did not love, and having to live daily with the strife and rivalry between the two sisters. 

The choices that we make today follow us into and determines the kind of future we will have, so it is critical to make the right choices, and when in doubt defer to God because he knows what is best for us, even if we don't understand the logic of God. We have to trust that he, being God with all wisdom and all knowledge, knows exactly what he is doing. We can disagree with God, if we like, to our own peril, and he won't say a word. He will just let you suffer the consequences of your own foolishness, sometimes for a lifetime.

Listening to the bad advice of friends or relatives can wreck permanent havoc in our lives, and we will spend our lives regretting a choice made that cannot be undone.
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