In God's deepest anger He will answer a bad prayer.* He will give you the thing that you asked Him for to your own destruction, simple to teach you a lesson that He is God, that He knows what He is doing, and that He knows what's best for you even more than you do.
For example, if you ask God to show you who your wife is, and then you reject her, and ask God instead for another woman more appealing to you, then you have stepped into la-la land.
* I read this in a book I bought for ten cents at a library book sale many years ago. I don't remember the title or author of the book, and I have since given it away to the Salvation Army with a load of other books. It was a profound statement that caused me to understand a very painful time in my life.
Satan Lied to Eve
Satan was after something, the eternal soul of humanity, and but for the saving grace of God, he would have succeeded.
Consequently, death entered into the equation of human history.
That critical sense of what is right and what is wrong is embedded into the fabric of every essence of our being, and cannot be denied, unless a man's conscience has been seared with a hot iron, his sins having drowned his ability to reason.
Reason gives a man the ability to determine what he should and should not do. Reason helps you to determine clear boundary lines that should not be crossed under any circumstances whatsoever.
It's called the common sense factor, without which, man seems to slip into silliness, doing everything he imagines, which is born from the darkness of his mind.
Sin turns the light off , and the darkness prevails, and that darkness guides hapless individuals into the bowels of hell.
Eve wanted to believe Satan's lie. No doubt she ignored that loud warning bell ringing in her mind that was trying to tell her that she was going down the wrong pathway, a pathway that was headed directly into certain peril.
It wasn't enough that she fell into Satan's trap, but she led her husband into the darkness of sin. Men, specifically pastors and men in church leadership positions, this is why you just don't marry any woman, no matter how beautiful and desirable she may be.
If you make the wrong selection you just may have a fallen Eve on your hands. And she will lead you away from the purpose that God has for your life. By the time you wake up from your delusions you will have suffered great loss, and have to backtrack to the point where you married the wrong woman, a woman who caused to stumble into sin. Samson and Delilah comes to mind.
In truth, a wife comes from the Lord and requires a sacrifice on the part of the man. Adam lost his rib. Be assured before God will give you the best that He has He will require of you a sacrifice. Now what that sacrifice will be, no doubt, will be determined by God. God did not ask Adam for his rib, He simply took it.
There is a difference between a wife and a woman. There are a world full of women, but within that number are but few wives. And the only way you will obtain so rare a jewel is directly from the hand of God. You must seek a wife from the Lord, and not trust your own ability to choose what is best for you.
What is the will of God for you as it relates to a wife? How much time have you spent in the presence of the Lord inquiring?
Or are you just simply keeping a look out, hoping to see someone that appeals to you enough to make an effort to obtain her for yourself.
Often until you get to a place in God where it really doesn't matter whether you have a wife or not, until celibacy is just a way of life with you, there is really no need for further discussion on the matter.
Once God reveals to you who He has chosen for you, trust Him that He knows what He is doing, and except his choice for you. To not do so will cause you to put your purpose in jeopardy, if not completely abort it. And then what will you have? What will your life be like without God's purpose moving you forward to fulfillment?
Most men look at women without differentiating them from what a wife is. Not every woman is a wife. Conversely, not every man is a husband. There is a distinct difference between a man and a husband. A husband has God at the center of his life. Everything that he is and will be is proceeds from the will of God for his life.
He has unequivocally submitted his whole life to God, and will serve God with or without a wife. His relationship with God is not based on whether God has given him a wife, it is based on his unwavering love for the Lord.
So Christian ladies, no matter how attractive, wealthy, or appealing the man may be, if God is not the center of his life, and God has not revealed to you that He has indeed chosen that particular man for you, run, don't walk, in the opposite direction. It is a sad situation to be married to the wrong man, and often this is not discoverable until after you are married him.
Before a woman can receive a husband from the Lord she has to allow God to make her, to build her from the essence of the man he has chosen for her. God places in the woman what the man desires, conversely, God places in the man what the woman desires. Only God truly know what causes our happiness factor to multiply.
The snake was cursed. Satan was judged. Eve suffered pain in childbirth, and was made subject to her husband. The ground was cursed with "thorns and thistles" and Adam had to work in the fields and grow food because he listened to Eve and disobeyed God. The question then is where was Adam while Satan was seducing Eve into sin?
So, Adam and Eve spiraled downward from eternal existence into dust.
When God gives a man a wife she will always come with the purpose of God attached to her, like a banner waving in the breeze, an unmistakable sign that can be easily read and understood.
You cannot go wrong in accepting God's creative gift. Unrefined men think so because they are listening to the voice of their own inadequacies, which invariably steer them off course and into dangerous waters.
The hidden layers covering God's choice of a bride for a man are there for a purpose, and that purpose generates profound warfare between the groom and the bride's enemies with the angels of God.
Consequently, if you have chosen a bride and she falls ever so easily into your arms, without you first engaging in the most horrific spiritual battle of your life, then it's safe to conclude that what you have selected is none other than a bride from Satan's harem, and she will undoubtedly be the cause of your utter destruction.
Men generally tiptoe lightly upon a woman not really discerning the importance of selecting the right woman. Therein lie his most critical error.
If you are a wealthy, established pastor, for instance, and you have decided upon your bride, and you are gradually becoming acquainted with her, and as time passes, her birthday arrives or Christmas arrives, and you want to know what she would like as a gift, so you ask her what she wants.
First of all, it is usually a mistake to ask a woman what she would like as a gift because that implies that whatever she asks you for that you are fully capable of obtaining it for her.
So if she asks you for a 20 ct white diamond necklace and earring set, don't be stunned into silence, just gracefully go out and purchase the thing, and know that what you have is a Delilah on your hands.
But if instead she asks for a bouquet of red roses because flowers are her favorite thing, then most likely what you have is God's will for your life, because her focus is not on the expensive things that money can buy, but clearly on the will of God.
And please don't ever give a woman a credit card with U.P.P. (Unlimited Purchasing Power), unless you trust her implicitly to not be stupid.