Confidentiality for Pastors - A New Pathway to Spiritual Equilibrium


1 Corinthians 6:12-20
All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power. 

Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of a harlot? God forbid. What! Know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? For two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. 

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What! Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
Initially, celibacy, in the beginning stages is a difficult state to achieve, but it is possible, if you truly desire to live your life according to the word of God. 

The expression of sexual passion within the framework of marriage, between one man and one woman, is a construct designed by God. 

The desire for sexual release is a natural part of being a man or a woman, also designed by God. Once sexual intercourse has become a natural part of your life through marriage or otherwise, and you are accustomed to enjoying that particular part of your life, when it is no longer available to you, either because of divorce, or you simply want to change your life, and truly become one with Christ by denying your flesh and living a celibate lifestyle, which is in line with biblical dictates, then a problem arises. How in the world do I live celibate now, after having become fully indoctrinated into the lifestyle of  sexual expression?

Here's the thing, it is addictive behavior, that one must abstain from, much like any other habitual thing that crosses one's pathway; drugs, food, smoking cigarettes - nicotine being more addictive than heroine, and the like. 

As you proceed down the pathway of celibacy, the first few weeks and months are difficult days and nights that you must simply endure, and get through by distraction; reading the word of God, doing whatever you can to improve yourself, and or your quality of life, until celibacy becomes a lifestyle while you wait for God to bless you with a spouse, and arriving at the point where it really doesn't matter anymore because you have made up your mind that you are going to live for Christ no matter what. 

If God blesses you with a spouse, fine, and if he doesn't, it's still fine, because when you reach the "it's still fine" stage in your celibate walk with the Lord, then you are standing on the top of the hill, and all the temptations are beneath your feet at the bottom of the hill, rendered completely ineffectual.

Celibacy is gradually becoming use to living your life without what has been a natural component within the framework of your life. It is not easy, and you must be committed to successfully presenting your body as a living sacrifice to the Lord.

Masturbation is not acceptable either, because you are opening yourself up to seducing spirits and you will never reach a true celibate state that way. It is just as sinful, and it is not living a celibate life. 

You are just substituting yourself for a sexual partner, and the frustration of being alone and addictive sexual behavior will continue to plague you. The desire for sex will never become manageable as long as you give in to masturbation.

As the weeks, months and years go by, and you maintain your dignity and right relationship with God, abstinence will become a natural part of your life instead. God may bless you with a spouse before you get into "years", and he may not. 

But when he does or whether he does, if your heart is right with God, it will no longer matter. Your only goal is to please the Lord who died on the cross of affliction for you, the Lord who washed your sins away, the Lord who saved your soul.

We often tend to look to God for this, that and the other, taking for granted the salvation of our souls, when, in fact, that is the most crucial element in our lives, the gift of eternal life, which is more precious than anything we might enjoy on this earth in finite time. 

For we must always be focused on the fact that heaven and earth will pass away, and the only thing that will be left is our spiritual relationship with God. Even our own natural bodies will pass away and return to dust.
For those who say in their hearts that they cannot live a celibate life, that it is too hard, so they don't even try. What if you were in the middle of the sex act, and someone held a gun to your head, and told you that if you continued, they were going to kill you. Would you be able to stop? Yes, you would, because then it becomes a matter of life and death. 

Well, guess what, even if there is no gun pointing at you, it is still a matter of life and death, because to continue in disobedience to God's word is placing your eternal soul in jeopardy, all at the same time, causing unknown injury to you physically, emotionally, and psychologically. 

God did not create us for fornication, consequently, fornication becomes a destructive force in our lives if we continue to give in to it, destructive in ways that are unimaginable. The insidious consequences of sin will always find us in our secret hiding places.

The choices we make determine the pathway our future will take. If we are to fulfill our God-given destiny and discover why God gave us life in the first place, we must be obedient to his word, which means if you are a single man or woman, celibacy must become your daily way of life.

Sexual passions are nothing but restless energy that must be re-channeled into other avenues of constructive endeavors; working, creating artistically, becoming a better you via education, exercise, giving and helping others, staying active, but most of all, constantly building up your relationship with God by dwelling in his holy presence at every opportunity, praying and seeking his divine guidance for your life. 

God will never ask more of you than you are equipped by him to give. So if he is asking celibacy of you, it is a surety that he has also given you everything you need to maintain that lifestyle. 

Only stubbornness and an unwillingness to make the sacrifice will keep you from succeeding in presenting your body to God as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to him. When you sacrifice your life to God by living celibate, it is a demonstration of your love for him, the willingness to deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow him.

The flesh must die, and the only way that will occur is if you are willing to kill it, simply by denying it everyday. If you continue to deny your flesh it will eventually die as a matter of course, and you will get to the other side of the desire to express the natural sexual passions that God created in you. 

When you get to the other side of your flesh because you have determined in your mind that you are going to live holy, then you will look back and know with wonder how incredible God has been to you, and how much you have gained by being obedient to his word. 

What you gain from God in terms of gifts of the spirit, direction, and your own detailed divine destiny from the mighty hand of God, is incomparable to living a life of sin; compromising yourself and your soul for momentary pleasure. The price will always be higher than you want to pay. The rewards for living a celibate lifestyle are much more pleasing than facing the guilt and shame that comes along with the sin of fornication.

Through prayer we have access to God who loves us, we have a view into our future if we continue to live our lives according to his will, we have a comforter who will come to us and renew our faith and give us new dreams. 

As those dreams began to come true, you will know that you made the right decision to live celibate before the Lord. It will all be worth it in the end because you will receive so much more from God than you could possibly achieve on your own. 
The gifts and blessings that God gives us are related to our destiny, which unfolds before us as a matter of course. 
It just a matter of waiting for the promises of God to come to pass, and they most certainly will. Our faith in God is the catalyst propelling our dreams into the reality of actual existence, from the realms of infinity into finite time.
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